Saturday, November 3, 2007
I went for a haircut today and i bade goodbye to my VERY messy mane. Its the first time i ever felt good leaving a hair salon. lol. usually, the hair dresses ALWAYS say something mean about my hair and make me K-R-Y . haha , however, this time, it was different! she actually made me feel good lol!~~~~ yay. so i can let down my hair comfortably without worrying about wearing an afro hairdo-gone-wilder.
i helped mum out and then i went to hang with dad and OFF to queens at night~!!! kaiting better be studying for O's now LOL
neway...
human beings are funny creatures.
They will not give in until they hear something which they like.
People complain ,
eg : hair, weight, results, people, work, bitchy colleages, terrible service.blah
reasons.
1- Some times they talk about it because they feel dissatisfaction.
2- OTHERWISE. they talk about the same thing, REPEATEDLY, just want to hear something they WANT to hear from you. I believe, this is the EGO boosting method. SOMETIMES, you do need it .
Example 1.
case 1. DISSATISFACTION.
eg , mary [ since mary is such a random name ] .
MARY: wah, i hate my results this term leh,,, i studied so hard and i only got 1 A, .thats so sad for me, i missed my goals. uck.......
when the person looks so upset. then its real.
however, if mary repeats it AGAIN AND AGAIN ABOUT TEN YEARS AFTER THE INCIDENT, then i think it means,
CASE 2 : THEY TO HEAR WHAT THEY WANT.
MARY : wahhh~~~ i hate my results this term la,, i miss one mark then get A* lei,, one mark one mark one mark!~~~~ [ and repeats this even 10000 times after the release of the results ]
someone: aiyah, wah~!~~ still get A leh . YOU VERY CLEVER LEH~!!!!
ok , there are of course other examples which i have no time to list.
why do i mention this? It is because , my mother is like that., She refused to stop talking about the incident which occurred about 2 years ago until i ASSURED her that YES i will do something, that she stopped talking about it . it was annoying. haha,,
she wants me to talk to someone about something, UNTIL the person changes his/her decision. However, whenever i talk to her about something, she NEVER wants to change . When we argue , she only stopped to listen to me when i said " i will change" . when i told her to change, she argued with me that i was being rude. .. and claimed that the problem will be settled if I AM THE ONE WHO CHANGES . [ which is totally not true !]
haha,, when i try to tell her about this, [ countless of times] she will NEVER want to admit it and give the standard " idk what you are talking about " answer. which is very annoying.
Nonetheless, since trying so many times doesn't get to her, the only thing i can do is to just forget it and laugh it off, as long as i am not like her, then it doesn't matter to me because people can then approach me more comfortably then others. You can always bring the horse to the water. but you cannot force it to drink. I bring her to the root of the problem so many times, but i cannot force her to accept it, or at least taste it.
i mean, you can try to tell someone, so that they can learn to be more accepting, but if they die also refuse, then BO BIAN lorh, just look at it with a smile and laugh it off~!
Don;t get me wrong, listening to someone;s opinions does not mean that you have to change, it just means that you have a different perspective to look from. People often insensitively reject other people's opinion when they listen to it, by giving a vigorous shake of the head whilst furrowing their eyebrows in a manner of disagreement. Haha... . . but i realized that this is not always good. I learned this from my friend, he always listen to people's opinion and can disagree with it totally, yet he does not reject it. Instead, he just evaluates it, laughs it off, and just be more tactful when he approaches the person with the same topic.
do you understand what i am talking about ?
i helped mum out and then i went to hang with dad and OFF to queens at night~!!! kaiting better be studying for O's now LOL
neway...
human beings are funny creatures.
They will not give in until they hear something which they like.
People complain ,
eg : hair, weight, results, people, work, bitchy colleages, terrible service.blah
reasons.
1- Some times they talk about it because they feel dissatisfaction.
2- OTHERWISE. they talk about the same thing, REPEATEDLY, just want to hear something they WANT to hear from you. I believe, this is the EGO boosting method. SOMETIMES, you do need it .
Example 1.
case 1. DISSATISFACTION.
eg , mary [ since mary is such a random name ] .
MARY: wah, i hate my results this term leh,,, i studied so hard and i only got 1 A, .thats so sad for me, i missed my goals. uck.......
when the person looks so upset. then its real.
however, if mary repeats it AGAIN AND AGAIN ABOUT TEN YEARS AFTER THE INCIDENT, then i think it means,
CASE 2 : THEY TO HEAR WHAT THEY WANT.
MARY : wahhh~~~ i hate my results this term la,, i miss one mark then get A* lei,, one mark one mark one mark!~~~~ [ and repeats this even 10000 times after the release of the results ]
someone: aiyah, wah~!~~ still get A leh . YOU VERY CLEVER LEH~!!!!
ok , there are of course other examples which i have no time to list.
why do i mention this? It is because , my mother is like that., She refused to stop talking about the incident which occurred about 2 years ago until i ASSURED her that YES i will do something, that she stopped talking about it . it was annoying. haha,,
she wants me to talk to someone about something, UNTIL the person changes his/her decision. However, whenever i talk to her about something, she NEVER wants to change . When we argue , she only stopped to listen to me when i said " i will change" . when i told her to change, she argued with me that i was being rude. .. and claimed that the problem will be settled if I AM THE ONE WHO CHANGES . [ which is totally not true !]
haha,, when i try to tell her about this, [ countless of times] she will NEVER want to admit it and give the standard " idk what you are talking about " answer. which is very annoying.
Nonetheless, since trying so many times doesn't get to her, the only thing i can do is to just forget it and laugh it off, as long as i am not like her, then it doesn't matter to me because people can then approach me more comfortably then others. You can always bring the horse to the water. but you cannot force it to drink. I bring her to the root of the problem so many times, but i cannot force her to accept it, or at least taste it.
i mean, you can try to tell someone, so that they can learn to be more accepting, but if they die also refuse, then BO BIAN lorh, just look at it with a smile and laugh it off~!
Don;t get me wrong, listening to someone;s opinions does not mean that you have to change, it just means that you have a different perspective to look from. People often insensitively reject other people's opinion when they listen to it, by giving a vigorous shake of the head whilst furrowing their eyebrows in a manner of disagreement. Haha... . . but i realized that this is not always good. I learned this from my friend, he always listen to people's opinion and can disagree with it totally, yet he does not reject it. Instead, he just evaluates it, laughs it off, and just be more tactful when he approaches the person with the same topic.
do you understand what i am talking about ?
Labels: People; behaviour and thoughts
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