Tuesday, February 3, 2009
he said, that in order to be better, we just think of those questions everyday. ask yourself those questions, you do not even need to come up with an answer, you just think about it .
I am always thinking about everything, however, ending up with no conclusions so often really bugs me. I seek answers, but most of the time i end up with more questions. Perhaps its just a test of my patience, again. Which , i am mostly patient regarding the wrong things.
I know that most of the time, i am circling round the bush about an unknown topic. perhaps its because i don't really want my thoughts to be permanent, because we have to be receptive to new things, paradigm shifts occur sometimes, we can always change our perspective. This is why , i don;t really want to record it down and people who read it go, " hey, i remember ,you mentioned that you blah blah blah "
haha, i don't know if this is going to be used against me some day, this is why its good to be discreet about it again. . .
Anyway, ,i;ve been collating my observations and just thinking about them once again,
it seems like there;s always a certain topic that pops out subconsciously and i just observe people and just evaluate it. I guess it just helps me pass time, thats all.
This week, i was thinking about listening to both sides of the story. When you hear someone saying something you do not agree with , its really hard to draw the line. Like when i hear a respected person ( like your older relative) tell me something, sometimes i can;t help it but to strongly disagree with, though i know i should listen, i just want them to know that they have misunderstood or smth,, but i justi find it hard to butt in and offer a second opinion.
for example, when two people argue, its because of a different interpretation of a certain topic. Like ,reading of a text message, one takes it as an insult, the other just thinks its a neutral sounding thing.
A talks in a easy going tone, and B thinks that A is just being nonchalant .
Its so difficult to draw the line. Especially when you know that its just a misunderstanding. When people are angry, they are really receptive to listening to the other party;s explanation, so as a middle person, you want to "soften the blow".
i normally try to offer a different perspective so that they may think otherwise and realise that they are actually making a mountain out of a molehill.. . . . ( which, when the person is angry, they don;t hear anything else but themselves)
I hate it the most when the person, whom i am telling my alternative perspective to, ACCUSES ME OF TRYING TO BE ON THE OTHER PERSON:S SIDE?!?!?!?
WTF.
and oh, the worse thing is , they say the ultimate phrase which really gets on my flipping nerve. the one that "tries hard" to play with the principles of being related.
" IF YOU THINK THAT ___ IS RIGHT< style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"> neutral alternative perspective
wtf.
cooling off`~~!
so what do you do?
sigh, and its not just that too,,
I am always thinking about everything, however, ending up with no conclusions so often really bugs me. I seek answers, but most of the time i end up with more questions. Perhaps its just a test of my patience, again. Which , i am mostly patient regarding the wrong things.
I know that most of the time, i am circling round the bush about an unknown topic. perhaps its because i don't really want my thoughts to be permanent, because we have to be receptive to new things, paradigm shifts occur sometimes, we can always change our perspective. This is why , i don;t really want to record it down and people who read it go, " hey, i remember ,you mentioned that you blah blah blah "
haha, i don't know if this is going to be used against me some day, this is why its good to be discreet about it again. . .
Anyway, ,i;ve been collating my observations and just thinking about them once again,
it seems like there;s always a certain topic that pops out subconsciously and i just observe people and just evaluate it. I guess it just helps me pass time, thats all.
This week, i was thinking about listening to both sides of the story. When you hear someone saying something you do not agree with , its really hard to draw the line. Like when i hear a respected person ( like your older relative) tell me something, sometimes i can;t help it but to strongly disagree with, though i know i should listen, i just want them to know that they have misunderstood or smth,, but i justi find it hard to butt in and offer a second opinion.
for example, when two people argue, its because of a different interpretation of a certain topic. Like ,reading of a text message, one takes it as an insult, the other just thinks its a neutral sounding thing.
A talks in a easy going tone, and B thinks that A is just being nonchalant .
Its so difficult to draw the line. Especially when you know that its just a misunderstanding. When people are angry, they are really receptive to listening to the other party;s explanation, so as a middle person, you want to "soften the blow".
i normally try to offer a different perspective so that they may think otherwise and realise that they are actually making a mountain out of a molehill.. . . . ( which, when the person is angry, they don;t hear anything else but themselves)
I hate it the most when the person, whom i am telling my alternative perspective to, ACCUSES ME OF TRYING TO BE ON THE OTHER PERSON:S SIDE?!?!?!?
WTF.
and oh, the worse thing is , they say the ultimate phrase which really gets on my flipping nerve. the one that "tries hard" to play with the principles of being related.
" IF YOU THINK THAT ___ IS RIGHT< style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"> neutral alternative perspective
wtf.
cooling off`~~!
so what do you do?
sigh, and its not just that too,,
what we could have been, 6:08 AM.
